Love Tips for Guys - You CAN Choose Who You Fall in Love With

As someone who frequently gets asked questions about and advice on love, dating, and relationships... one of the more frustrating things that I get to see is just how many people fall in love with the WRONG person. And it goes both ways, it's not just women falling for the wrong guys. Guys do it too. They fall in love with the wrong woman, and it ends up making their life a nightmare. What gets to be most frustrating is seeing how many people believe that they just cannot help who they fall in love with.

You CAN choose who you fall in love with.

While the feeling can kind of seem instantaneous, most of the time it is a lot more gradual than that. Meaning, you don't meet a woman and 5 minutes later fall in love. It takes time, you have to actively seek out spending time with her. And the more time you DO spend with a woman... the more likely it is that you will fall for her.

So, why is this important for YOU?

Imagine yourself in a relationship with a woman who cheated on you. And she did it time and time again, and you always take her back because you feel like you love her and that feeling makes you accept her indiscretions. Sound like a nightmare, right? Well, that happens all of the time and it always boils down to this idea that you cannot help who you fall for.

Here's another scenario which is rather common. You are in a relationship with a woman who does not let you have a life outside of her. Going to football games with your buddies, hanging out and shooting pool, all of those things are off limits because she needs you to always be around her. Again, kind of a nightmare, right?

It's VERY common. And when I ask the reason why guys allow themselves to be in a relationship like that, the answer almost always has to do with the fact that she is the one they fell for and they don't think that they can change that feeling.

My advice:

Learn to qualify women before you start spending so much time and energy on a relationship with them. It's much easier to cut ties with a woman when you are aware of who she really is, and you have not invested a lot of time into a relationship. And realize that you can choose who you fall for. You can choose which women you approach, which ones you ask out on a date, and which ones you decide to commit to.

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