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Kamis, 16 Juni 2011

The gender trust

Trust is a tangible thing that makes working o working relationships, and reduce problems, and allows you to share your feelings fully, thoughts and feelings with a lover. You can buy just because never, and lost easily.
How maintenance and fix if necessary, between women and men trust?

On the basis of trust really four elements for assessing the risks we all unconsciously about our partner. This:

1. fidelity
Do you mean what you say? Or are you guilty of saying something without clear intention to follow through.

2. reliability
Says it will do something or be somewhere then or not? This can seem like a petty but you will subconsciously to your follow through. It's always best not to something that can be definitely will be able to do.

3. competence
This evaluation about whether they think you have the ability to do what you can.

4. care
Do you have other "good person" in the heart as much as your own when your decisions and actions? Most people quickly to pick up on this, though it does not explain what is wrong.

All of this risk assessment and take generally below the conscious mind and will be strongly influenced by any previous history between the peoples involved. The end result will be a gut feeling that amorphous you virtually impossible for your partner to discard if nothing out of the unconscious with new information indicating possible alternative.

So, how do you capture process when you made a mistake and lost the confidence of your loved ones?

Here's the deal! When you have done nothing less than brilliant (and us) first, admit to yourself. This is the hardest part. Don't snikili to hide or blame someone else, I think you got away with it, because it won't have. Confidence will be lost even if nothing is said publicly; once damaged confidence easily won't trust again. The only thing it has is clean and accept responsibility for your failure. Then, this is the most important part, and select how to handle similar cases in future. And be sure that, come hell or high water that you follow through. This is worthy of trust, and the only way to break through the risk assessment process, we have discussed above.

Remember that good deals with small disappointment can really build trust and a big one but will eventually destroy the relationship or take major changes in your part to move forward again.

Sabtu, 28 Mei 2011

Trust Between The Sexes

Trust is the intangible X factor that makes relationships work, eases problems and allows you to fully share your feelings, thoughts and emotions with a lover. It can never be bought, only given and is easily lost.
How can trust be maintained and if necessary, repaired between men and women?

Trust is actually based on four elements of risk assessment which we all unconsciously make about our partner. These are:

1. Sincerity
Do you mean what you say? Or, are you guilty of saying something without the clear intention of follow through.

2. Reliability
Do you say you'll do something or be somewhere and then don't or can't? These can seem like small misdemeanors but you will be subconsciously judged on your follow through. It's always better not to agree to something you can't be sure you'll be able to do.

3. Competence
This is the assessment made about whether they think you have the ability to do what you say you can.

4. Care
Do you have the other person's "best interests" at heart as much as your own when you make your decisions and take action? Most people very quickly pick up on this, even if they can't explain what's wrong.

All this risk assessment is generally taking place below the level of the conscious mind and will be strongly influenced by any past history between the two people involved. The end result will be an amorphous gut feeling about you which is almost impossible for your partner to ignore unless you do something to break through this unconscious process with new information which suggests an alternative possibility.

So, how do you arrest the process when you've made a mistake and lost your loved ones trust?

Here's the deal! When you've done something less than brilliant (and we all have) firstly, admit it to yourself. This is the hardest part. Don't sneakily hide it or blame the other person and think you've got away with it, because, you won't have. Trust will have been lost and even if nothing is openly said; once trust is damaged you won't easily be trusted again. The only thing for it is to come clean and accept responsibility for your personal failure in the situation. Then, and this is the most important part, name how you will handle similar issues in the future. And, make sure, come hell or high water that you follow through. This is a trustworthy stance and the only way to break through the risk assessment process we've discussed above.

Remember that a small disappointment handled well can actually build trust and a big one is either going to ultimately destroy the relationship or take major changes on your part in order to move forward again.


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