Too often people think all dependency relationships resemble each other, filled with seemingly unpredictable difficulties and problems. Understand how to deal with these problems, but will not completely replace them. Most relationships suffer somewhat from lack of intimacy, and intimacy I defined as "how you like to be weak". In unhealthy relationships however; a intimacy is replaced by the density and intensity of bonds people together.
Some societies promote dependency relationships more easily than others. In fact, the norm in this long-standing culture of women to be subservient and dependent on men and play a second class citizen without argument. But times have changed, and on an individual basis, the spontaneous dependency is no longer acceptable. Now unresolved dependency in childhood needs often manifest themselves later in life as love addiction. Love addiction is the result of individual stops, or incomplete, trying to become full: "by another, usually also incomplete person. This is no coincidence; it's as if the two are the only ones who speak the same language in a foreign country. Presumably the resulting relationship somehow magically solve all emotional and social problems for both partners. It never did.
Lack of emotional for both partners in an all or nothing, just an intimacy list; Alternatively, both partners bond density. Often it seems that not intimacy. Although the relationship very intense and highly reactive, may feel close couple. Love depend based on fears of abandonment of loss of control and being alone. People's addiction to ease fear of painful loneliness through what usually ends up as painfully intense justify as "better than nothing" until they realise that they can get out of a relationship when they choose to, they will never accept that he has the option of remaining in it if they so wish. In short, they don't realize there are options. No option prevents the ability to love, as love free expression of choice. Love addiction, on the other hand, twisted manipulation requires the payment of the basic decision. While both partners victim backgrounds each when they come together one other role takes a dominant role. Because honest feelings and thoughts lacking love addiction, there is no way to be open and vulnerable, and therefore, no possibility of real intimacy, the couple find refuge in anarchy and thought of games that are allowed to work abroad and error had decided their feelings. Stop abusive relationships and unhealthy, and pain and struggle, in rare cases with short periods of good times, it seems that rule. However involved clinging to a few good moments and memories, believing they are true relationship.
Accept the pain instead of deprivation, there is pain to learn a lesson. And that voice that has been ignored. The inner knowing that try to warn you. Your relationship may be a reflection of who you really deep inside. Day you freely accept pain and tell the truth about who they are, and act on it, only then, you can get the inner strength necessary changes, and emotional suffering. Don't hope it will change because you're the only person who can make the change. Love a great way to give, if given unconditionally, no strings attached. Love less impressive if individual cost or freedom or security.
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