One of the most annoying things about understanding men is how we can sometimes interpret "no" as meaning "yes". More annoyingly than that is how we can sometimes sulk about being told no. For this reason, there are a lot of women who are afraid that their man would simply grow unresponsive if being constantly denied what they want to do and simply ignore their woman and do whatever they like or even worse, leave her. Here are three ways that my wife tells me "no" that actually make me happy.
1. The level head
This is something that the wife or girlfriend can do to demonstrate that her saying no can actually be a good thing. My wife has an extremely fast metabolism and can actually eat quite a lot, sometimes even more than I can.
When I go out, I usually order too much, being overconfident in how much I can eat. There was this one time I was going out for pizza with her. I wanted the family size because I was feeling hungry. She said no and lucky she did; I was full sharing a large pizza with her. Show how level-headed you are and your man will grow to respect your "no's".
2. Different Opinions
This is another way that the lady can sneak in a "no" without offending her man too much. There is nothing wrong with having a different opinion on a certain topic to your man. Having a different opinion doesn't show that you're wrong, it shows you care just as much about it.
Sneak in a no and have a gentle argument about the topic. This will show your man that at least you both care about a certain topic enough to have thought about it to have opinions about it. He would prefer this than blind agreement.
3. The Occasional Denial
This is probably the "no" that's hardest for women to do. The man is usually the leader, the one who goes about and does whatever he pleases. If he has any sense of decency whatsoever, he'll tell the woman what he's doing and where he's going.
If you can step in and say, "no, I wanted you to do this instead," then regardless of whether he agrees to help you out or not, him noticing that you have to courage to say no will make him more likely to comply with you next time. It simply takes practice and a realization that your man is on par with you, not above you.
If you're having trouble understanding men, just realize that we have to be told "no" sometimes to really get anywhere in life. If we got everything we wanted, there would be no challenge. We seek challenges and if our woman can provide it, there's a greater chance that we'll stay with her.
Jack Keys is married to a beautiful woman with whom he has a gorgeous daughter. Within 6 months of being married, they were already on the rocks. Using his degree in psychology, Jack analyzed what was wrong with their marriage and brought back their marriage into safe territory.
If understanding men is an issue for you, download Jack's free report that he wrote to try and help women learn about and solve men issues that put stress on marriage, such as what men really want out of a marriage (it's not sex, love or children), why your man is falling out of love with you and why he's ignoring what you're asking him to do.
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